“I won’t be young forever!”

I’ve seen children dreaming of grand birthday parties, and I’m sure you’ve seen them too. Little lasses fancy princess themed parties, with tiaras, gowns, and glittering slippers. Little lads imagine that they’re one of the Marvel heroes, Lightning McQueen, or a soldier in the Army, Air Force, or Navy. With chocolate cake and bright balloons, with jolly games and wonderful gifts, they will consider it complete.

I’ve seen wives and mothers past the age of forty, trying to look younger than they are, and I’m sure you’ve seen them too. Their faces have fine lines that tell of the times that they worried for their husbands and their children. Their hands declare how much work she has done, scrubbing soiled clothes, cutting up vegetables, smoothing a feverish forehead, etc. Her hair, which her children have brushed, smoothed, or played with, will become streaked with gray. If you look at them, you will see how much they have cared for their families.

And they remind me that I won’t be young forever! I will become an aged woman when the time comes. In Titus 2, aged women are to teach the young women ‘to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, obedient to their own husbands’. That’s not a very long list of lessons, but it will cover a lot of practical things in life that will be manifested by spiritual things. Not all aged women are qualified to teach these things, because during their younger days, they had not been sober, loving, discreet, chaste, and keepers at home. But thanks be to God, there are also the aged women who can be teachers of these ‘good things’. They are the ones whose behavior is ‘as becometh to holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine’. They are to teach these to the young women ‘that the word of God be not blasphemed’.

As a young woman, there are a lot of things that I need to know. First, I must learn to be sober. Being sober, or serious, in life is a hard thing to do. If not for the wisdom that comes from God and his word, everything I do might have been just going along with the flow of the world. I also need to learn to love my husband and my children. I don’t have a husband now (there will come a day for that) and I certainly don’t have children, so this is where the example of the aged women steps in, and I study from them. Besides this, I must learn to be discreet and chaste. Unfortunately, it is very difficult to find a good example in this regard. To be a keeper at home, my mother is my teacher. And to be obedient and submissive to my own husband, I obey my father. All these I need to learn so that the word of God will not be blasphemed, and that I would be ready to teach when the time comes.

Many have told me, “You’re young and talented. Take a chance and show the world what you have. Have fun; you’re still young, and you won’t be young forever.”

‘tis true. I won’t be young forever. Some may say I have talent, but it’s not mine. It belongs to the God who made me. And because it is His, all I do should be for Him alone.

Besides, I have my fun. 🙂 I have fun washing dishes and hanging laundry. I have fun cutting and sewing up dresses. I have fun caring for my siblings and changing diapers. I have fun trying to bake with little sisters wanting to ‘help’. I have fun teaching ABC’s and checking schoolwork. Some may call it work, and I guess it is work, but it’s wonderful to know that these little things that I do is actually fun when I serve

Jesus, and Others, and You

—What a wonderful way to spell JOY!”

18, 19, 20, 21,—25, —–31,——38,——45,——52……

Time flies. I might as well prepare myself to teach younger women…with a happy face and a joyous heart. 🙂

Far Above Rubies

Rubies, diamonds, pearls—all these precious stones are not easily gotten and are therefore very costly. It takes a tremendous amount of labour and care for them to be taken from beneath the earth, separated from stone, chipped, cut, and polished to be the beautiful gems set in jewelry. What else can be of more value than these?

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.” -Proverbs 31:10, KJV. Why did God place the virtuous woman far above rubies? In light of the first paragraph, I doubt that there is something far more of value than gold, silver, and precious stones. But there is, there is!

A virtuous woman is:
1) A woman whose heart of her husband safely trusts in her,
2) A woman who will do her husband good and not evil all the days of her life,
3) A woman that worketh willingly with her hands,
4) A woman who brings her food from afar, (and not just the canned goods and hotdogs)
5) A woman that riseth while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household,
6) A woman who considers a field, and buys it (she does business management),
7) A woman who, with the fruit of her hands, plants a vineyard (or a vegetable garden, for that matter),
 A woman who strengthens her arms,
9) A woman whose candle goeth not out by night (she sure does not stop until she finishes what needs to be done! :))
10) A woman who lays her hands on the spindle and distaff (she weaves!)
11) A woman who stretcheth out her hands to the poor and the needy,
12) A woman who is not afraid of snow for her household (she is quite prepared for emergencies…),
13) A woman who makes herself coverings of tapestry (she sews her own clothes, and modest ones too, I might add!),
14) A woman whose husband is known among the elders of the land,
15) A woman who makes fine linen, and selleth it (there it is again…she does business),
16) A woman whose clothing are strength and honour,
17) A woman who opens her mouth with wisdom,
18) A woman who looketh well to the ways of her household, and is not idle,
19) A woman whose children rise up and call her blessed,
20) A woman whose husband praiseth her.

A virtuous woman is a rare thing to find, and if there is one, it takes a great amount of labour and care for them to such. Just imagine of your mother, wife, daughter, or sister was a virtuous woman. Would it not be a great blessing? We ought to take good care of all virtuous women as much (and more!) as we would take care of the sparkling gemstones. They are precious and are placed far above rubies.

Pearls, diamonds, and rubies—
All of which are hard to get.
Taken from beneath,
Separated from stone,
Chipped and carefully cut,
Smoothened and polished,
To be the beautiful stones
Fixed in jewelries.

Pearls, diamonds, and rubies—
None can be higher.
Or is there?
A willing worker,
A business maker,
A keeper at home—
It is the virtuous woman
Set far above rubies.

Sewing Patience

“Little girls sew until their fingers fall off….” Or so the saying goes. Wellllll…..maybe not to the point that their fingers fall off because now we have sewing machines that make sewing clothes faster than when it was done by hand. Still, there are times when a seamstress has to use only a needle and thread to embroider, do beadwork and other intricate sewing.

Anyway, it is not just the home maker’s skill that little girls learn when they sew. While it is a valuable asset for ladies, there is something far more important that they get every time they sew. Their character is being built with every stitch, every mistake, every time they start again. Patience is learnt as they sit still, trying to sew straight lines. And it is patience that will help them in their every day life. I can say this without uncertainty because I myself sew dresses for the girls in my family. Patience is needed as they scrub dirty clothes, bake cakes and cookies, and cook. If they are not patient, the clothes will have to be laundered again, their cakes soggy in the middle, and their food half-cooked. Patience is needed to teach kids to do chores and schoolwork. And, if they are not patient, their kids may end up as unresponsible adults. Do you see how important it is? If you think it through, there are at least a dozen circumstances that proves patience is an absolute necessity. And guess what?? Little girls learn it with a needle and thread in their hands.

Why don’t we take a needle and thread and start sewing? Perhaps we can also learn patience. 🙂